Likely to end up single yet

Seems the attorney noted MO Divorce Laws are such she would get to keep her 401K, her annuity investment and her own SSI, she would NOT receive any form of Maintenance moneys as she had moneys to pay for things, she would be accepting the loss of my pension when I pass as my Employer WILL NOT EVER and HAS NOT EVER Paid a Divorcee spouse those funds, my life insurance policies would likely end up with a alternate.  Her best case scenario even with Sis moving in with her was in debt in five years, and likely broke in ten as she retires otherwise would end up working to 70 years old to make up some that she is throwing away.  EYE OPENING as was the trip to accountant that figured taxes, showed her JUST SSI, Pension and annuity I take home DOUBLE to three Times what she does, and that before I should ever choose to go Back to working at all.  She started looking at vacations and inability to ever take one again should we split as could not afford to go anywhere.  Decided her life her was worth more than the TV.

My YAG surgery was super quick and easy, have two weeks of eye drops then on my own until end of June to get another review of eyes' strengths and weaknesses.  We go a week from Friday to get me a Guided Cortical Steroid injection at C4/5 in my neck to try to extend time with any feeling in left arm.  Currently has a Itch cannot be scratched as is all nerves under pressure, Right arm is beginning to do that as well.  If that fails, another neck surgery and at least a month and half sitting awaiting Boning In Place of insert.  Her own Colonoscopy was fine, she has nothing to fear except the 30 lbs she put on since last December.  A1C numbers are NOT good.

I will not allow her to remain here and destroy what was built, I will place the entire site on sale some time around end of Summer where I will have a decent level of cash built back yet again and can put a down on her New House.  This one has not ever been her Home, she will no longer have a room in My Home.  Her Sis can move in with her and they can share Type 2 Diabetes that she already has.  They can commiserate as to how vile and Demanding males have been to them and I will move on then to reset in My next Home.

Thought about where headed, she was also, knows she cannot afford housing on her own and does not want to rent as is also insane high around here.  She considered moving into Sis's house but she noted NO ROOM for all the stuff either as all Her Stuff is flowing over.  She then got to thinking how we got here, is rethinking her nonsense and said will adjust considerably more to where I deem we will live.   

Keep the house and several acres so you can continue to hunt and work in the shop. Possible to even pickup a few hours a week as truck driver.. Not a a JOB, just as a "get out and do something"... as long as your eyes hang in there...

Many people live in the same house, but live two separate lives.. Not a bad idea.. Saves you looking for another place and having to put time and money into it..  Plus, you really dont know what shape you will be in 10 years from now.. Story could change in 5 years. Dont get locked into something for long term.

DMiller wrote: she wants to be Debt Free in the Next EIGHT years and then we can go on retirement trips and vacations,  She will be 69 I will be beyond 75... ...by the time arrive there will be UNABLE to do those things

Everything else pushed aside, the key circumstance is right here.

Life is a limited-time offer, and there's no warranty or guarantee expressed or implied.  Our primary debt is to Mother Nature, and when she forecloses, all we have left, is our debt to The Almighty, and we HOPE that debt is forgiven.

The unfortunate situation with life, is that it may end swiftly, or slowly, and the latter usually means we lose capacity to pursue the activities which make us whole.

And oftentimes, that happens to people who don't realize what that is, until after they've lost that ability... and the realization leaves them in emotional ruin.

Clearly, YOU see that, but she apparently doesn't.  It does NOT take an English degree to read the writing on the wall.  At four years old, sitting on the dock with my grandfather, drop-line fishing for perch, he told me that we have the ability to see the future, we usually just don't know how to look for it.

Relationships basically never follow the exact same path, but usually the paths are very close together.  There are points in the path that spread apart a bit, which is a good thing (one must have their own ambitions and avocations) but there's basic things that need to be coincident in order to make things 'work'.  You've identified some things that clearly aren't lining up... and you've identified some issues that totally disregard the obvious future circumstances you'll face.

I can not, in any way, claim that I haven't faced situations like this...  I suspect you're like me, in that you don't have a 'chair'...   By that, I mean, when I walk into my livingroom, there's a sofa, a recliner, and a coffee table, and none of them are 'mine'...  I have an office full of computers and drafting equipment, a music room full of instruments and recording gear, an electronics/radio lab, a machine shop... and lots of space outside where things get done.  The concept of having 'a chair' isn't something I could ever have... nor will I be a happy man when I get to the point where all I can do, is sit in a chair that I call 'mine'... and a result, I have a very difficult time relating to people who do...  and I suspect you, and a large volume of everyone else on this forum, are probably very much same.

We get to a point (if we don't check out quicker) that we enter the door of assisted living, and then down the hall to nursing home... then after that, hospice care... then the mortuary, and a cemetery plot.  I'm not in any hurry to see that first doorway, but I see others who are, and start that path early by moving into big corporate condominiums beside golf courses.  If I ever get stuck with that, I'll be violating every code, covenant, and restriction of the HOA by raising chickens, working on tractors, putting up big antennas, welding in the driveway, and shooting clay targets off my back deck.  "It will lend new meaning to a "Shotgun Start" doubles tournament, right?"  Fore!  PULL!!

Whatever happens, I hope for the best resolution for you.

Dang I never knew Allis-Chalmers made rocks !!! Sure looks like faded PO#1 to me !!!

I bet the trailer will be happy the weight is off it's back !

RV is not another home, NOT buying new any more than bought the Haul truck new.  MOST I will spend as to looking is 28,000 and yes they are out there and is less than a car payment for two years.  Already done that math with Insurance cost.  NOT in Debt that deep, sitting on last ~eight years of a 30 yr we have been paying from 150 to 250 extra per payment knocking years off.  What has gone nuts is Property taxes, Doubled last two years, Insurance DOUBLED Last two years, had been shopping there too, nothing better.  County reassessed the House and 8 acres, current taxes over $4500 yr, double of two years ago, Insurance is two policies(Separate Equake) over $2200.  That ramped the House loan dramatically.

She can approach on Distributions of Investments, she has a similar value and would have to cash out half in that case.  6/1, half dozen other.   Cannot get half of my SSI, as hers is already greater than that.  Cat and mouse as to Attorneys.  Depends on how vile where already have two available and not so fun for playtime.    She cannot go for maintenance as she is Income Earner at similar value to my retirement, just has to scale back her lifestyle.