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desertjoe 
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 Topic: BOY, have I got a thing or two to learn,,,,,,
Posted: 05 Jan 2023 at 9:56am |
Well, Friends,,,, this is a sensitive subject for me and prolly many others out there,,fact is Many hundreds of thousands according with all the companies already on line,,,,, It has now been one year and 4 months since my wife of 53 years passed and truth be known, and since I may be a sort of a talkative fellar,, I been looking for someone of the opposite sex to "talk" to and maybe go visit or go get a bite to eat with her. Not anything permanent yet,,but who knows? I been "looking" at some of those dating sites and I had no idea there was SO MANY good looking women out there,,,!! Problem is, they mostly live hundreds of miles away and I ain't ready to travel that far to go visit and "Get To Know" like they say,,,?? While those sites say "Long Distance" is no problem, it IS for me. Most of those ladies are ready to pack up and come visit but I ain't ready for that just yet! I really pissed one old gal because I told her my property and financial had already been spoken for with my Last will and Testament and all had been assigned to my 5 boys,,,Dang she was pissed,,,!! My question for ya'll, I'm not too keen on these dating sites, but where or WHAT does one do to meet up wwith those available ladies,,,,? There ain't any at Burger King,,,,, 
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Posted: 05 Jan 2023 at 10:17am |
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Try your local church Sunday.
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Thad in AR.
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Posted: 05 Jan 2023 at 10:47am |
 estout81 wrote:
Try your local church Sunday.
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The exact advice I was gonna give. Find one who seeks the Lord and not gold.
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Posted: 05 Jan 2023 at 10:49am |
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Yup, church
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Posted: 05 Jan 2023 at 11:35am |
Great advise and don't be in any hurry. Take your time
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Posted: 05 Jan 2023 at 12:12pm |
About a good 3/4 of those Hotties are Imports from Eastern Europe. Many are actually still there, just photos to stir the hormones. Buddy of mine found out the hard way, ended up sending some unknown honey some money, that came back as a demand for more or calling cops, pedophile charges, sexual predator charges, etc etc etc. He ignored and they finally went away, for the time being.
Trust NONE of what you see and only half of what can speak directly to.
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Posted: 05 Jan 2023 at 1:26pm |
Hey DJ, Cheryl says to watch Judge Judy and you will be glad your still single. Like the others have said, look towards the church, maybe even some of their social events /suppers etc. Maybe take up quilting or knitting and join their club... LOL Juss don't be in any big hurry.
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Posted: 05 Jan 2023 at 1:32pm |
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Just talk on the phone for starters...
Ask some questions like what they do or did, what interests/hobbies they have, belief in God/religion, family, etc.
Only after you can talk on the phone comfortably, then go face to face for coffee or tea in your local town.
But if there is any red flags - Stop! Move on to the next one.
You want someone that has a green flag, then Go!
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DaveKamp
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Posted: 05 Jan 2023 at 2:30pm |
If you meet them online, and it wasn't on the Allis forum, they're fake. They're bots run by opportunists.
Don't talk about property or money... ever. If they start talking about property or money, it's time to walk away.
Now... If you meet them on the Allis forum, and they start off wanting to share pictures of tractors, then offer to meet somewhere for dinner. 
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Posted: 05 Jan 2023 at 2:33pm |
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I met my wife, at of all places, a bar. We have been together ever since we first met. This Sept., will be 37 years.
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Posted: 05 Jan 2023 at 3:29pm |
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I think the Curch and Church functions are good advice, however keep in mind that hustlers use them for opportunities as well. And I'm not saying to stay away from dating sites, but there must be millions of people on them, many are fake or have other issues and that makes finding someone difficult.
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Posted: 05 Jan 2023 at 3:55pm |
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Hey DJ, if you want someone to go eat supper with, come visit and we'll get JoeM and Hubert and whoever else and go eat supper. If you want more then I'm afraid you're out of luck with this crowd but you still get to have a good meal with friends and some laughs and probably a few worse than PG13 jokes.
My brother has been single for about 10 years now and the ladies he's dated make me glad I'm married. Seems they all have a past filled with abusive husbands and it has effected them.
I have a cousin that met his wife through one of the dating sites. It seems to work for them but I believe they don't work for a lot of people because people have trouble being honest about themselves. Who really wants to show perfect strangers who they really are? So most fib a little (or a lot) to hide their flaws. Won't work unless both sides are honest I believe
Edited by thendrix - 05 Jan 2023 at 3:57pm
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Posted: 05 Jan 2023 at 6:03pm |
Maybe move to Alaska wilderness and meet the neighbors....??
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Posted: 05 Jan 2023 at 6:37pm |
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Don't be in any hurry. Enjoy your time alone and with family and friends. Mention to a few friends maybe they know of a single local gal. Maybe a high school classmate if you are close to your home town. You could try the local senior center for cards or some of the other activities they have. If the gals are getting out and going to that stuff they still have a little life in them. Some are only in their 60s.
Edited by DanWi - 05 Jan 2023 at 6:59pm
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Posted: 05 Jan 2023 at 6:51pm |
Class reunions, chamber of commerce mixers, fund raisers, casinos, bingo, library, church socials, grocery stores are all good places to check out. Several of my friends have used sites like E-Harmony and Plenty of Fish. They seem to be satisfied with the ones they have met. I met my girlfriend at a chamber of commerce mixer.
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Posted: 05 Jan 2023 at 7:04pm |
Get a lawn chair, go to Wal Mart and setup in the Lobby... inspect as they come in !
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Posted: 05 Jan 2023 at 7:17pm |
Grocery store and not the cheap one. Also TSC,Farm and Fleet,Rural King or the local Feed n Seed . They all got to feed their critters
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Posted: 05 Jan 2023 at 9:23pm |
Lars(wi) wrote:
I met my wife, at of all places, a bar. We have been together ever since we first met. This Sept., will be 37 years. |
But Lars, you're in God's Country... Bars are different in Wisconsin...
For those of you that haven't been up here... there's some things you should know about northern Iowa, most of Wisconsin... Minnesota, mebbie even into the Dakotas... you go into a small town, and in the center of the town, on one corner is a Catholic church. On the opposite corner, is a Lutheran church. On the two adjacent corners, are bars. One's the Lutheran bar, the other is the Catholic bar.
What's the difference between the Catholic and Lutheran bar? Well, it's all based on where the Catholic priest, and the Lutheran minister are. If the Catholic priest is in one bar, that's the Catholic bar, and the Lutheran priest is in the other...
If NEITHER is in the bar, it's because they're in the church for a scheduled worship, or a wedding, or funeral or such... or one of 'em is at a wedding or funeral at the other, or they're playin' Pinochle or Crazy 8's in the barbershop.
If they're BOTH in the same bar, it means it's fish-fry night, and if you just got there and figured it out, they're already probably already out of fish, so order some cheese curds.
Oh, and in Wisconsin, it is not only legal, but considered polite to park your snowmobile in the churchyard, and walk to the bar after mass. It is also common practice to let your dog drive the 'sled' home afterwards... designated driver, so don't let him drink, and make sure he's got a good set of goggles.
It is considered polite to offer fresh deer sticks to friends and strangers. Try them- they're GREAT... but probably not in church... put 'em in your pocket and save them for after mass.
Cheese curds are a thing. If you think they're gross, it's because you're thinking too much.
Throwing axes isn't a 'new' thing up here. Fishing is all-year-round, and when you see an ice-fishing hut, if you THINK it's cold and miserable, you'll be very surprised to find out you're wrong. Most have satellite TV with football on, nice furniture... a bar, probably even a hot-tub. If you want to meet a good woman, the ice-fishing scene is a place for you... don't be surprised if she's ice-fishing in a bikini, sitting in the hottub, drinking a beer, watching football or hockey, with deer sausage and cheese curds... and don't be surprised if there's a Lutheran minister, or a Catholic priest out there too...
Although you're supposed to have ID to vote, it is unlikely you'd walk into your polling place without them not only knowing your name, but they'll know your parents, grandparent, your siblings, they'll know who you've been dating, what you drive, and how long since you got new tires on your truck.
You MAY be over legal age, but you're not actually considered an 'adult' until you carry a chainsaw, gas, oil, and gear in your truck... if it's not a downed tree, it's a good spot to ice-fish that needs a hole. Hand it to the bikini-girl, and hold the ice-hut door open so the oil-smoke doesn't fog up the TV screen or rainbow the hot tub. Don't get distracted watchin' her butt... step out, hold the door wide open and stand BEHIND it... 'cuz she's gonna cut to point the spoils that way. If you don't your bibs and britches are gonna be an ice-bucket full'a bar oil.
MOST of the time, the local constable drives a UTV, and it DOES have radar. If you make him go get his patrol car to chase you down, he will be mad, so stop when the lights come on. If you're new in town, it is perfectly acceptable to ask the constable when and where the Fish Fry is held. Joe- go to the Fish Fry... look for the ice-fishin' gals, and offer them a deer stick.
It is normal for people to water-ski in the wintertime. It used to be snowmobiles, but 4-wheelers are frequent, and if the plows haven't been by, you can get in a few passes down main street. Wear a reflective lifejacket and carry deer sticks, just in case the constable turns on his lights, or the bikini girls invite you over to watch the game.
But down in southern New Mexico... well... last time I was through, it was pretty far between humans... and you don't get the right kind'a weather for ice-fishin'... You'd likely be better off heading north of Tucson bow-hunt Saguaro...
Always carry a deer tag in your glove box... More trophy bucks are taken by Buicks, than bows, shotguns, or rifles.
Edited by DaveKamp - 05 Jan 2023 at 9:33pm
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Posted: 05 Jan 2023 at 9:30pm |
steve(ill) wrote:
Get a lawn chair, go to Wal Mart and setup in the Lobby... inspect as they come in ! |
Dang You Steve,,, ,I had actually thought bout that,,,except I was gonna buy a couple of them flower boukets, they sell there at walmart and give one flower to every female that caME THRU MMMmmmm "Unescourted females,,,, see how many cell phone numbers i get,,,, 
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Posted: 05 Jan 2023 at 9:52pm |
Clay wrote:
Class reunions, chamber of commerce mixers, fund raisers, casinos, bingo, library, church socials, grocery stores are all good places to check out. Several of my friends have used sites like E-Harmony and Plenty of Fish. They seem to be satisfied with the ones they have met. I met my girlfriend at a chamber of commerce mixer. |
Clay,,thet right there is why I titled this thread like I did,,,,, One ole gal from down in Florida was a great looking women and she has a spotty profile ,,,,65 years ole and looked like she was 40 ish,,,,,,lol so like a dumbass, I ask her if she was widowed or divorsed as I wanted to KNOW,,,,!! Well,,it diidn't take too long and comes back with a quick retort,,,,"GO TO HELL!",,,the bit**!,,,so I take a pic of my middle finger and send it to her profile,,,,, The other witch told me that "YOU AREN"T SUPPOSSED TO ASK A LADY IF SHE IS WIDOWED OR DIVORCED" I reminded her that I had NOT called her a "LADY" and she wasn't suppossed to ask a "Gentleman" if he has a savings account in "Good Standing",,, The friggin nerve of some women,,,!!!
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Posted: 05 Jan 2023 at 9:56pm |
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That's pretty good Dave. We have some towns like that but like all good things they are slowly going away.
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Posted: 05 Jan 2023 at 9:57pm |
Dave Kamp,,,just where did you learn all that "stuff" ,,,??? I'ma gonna write it all down ,,,,in case I ever hit that country,,,you know just to be "ready" SAY,,Dave,,,you got any female "In-Laws that need a partner to go to a church socials, do you,,,,??
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Posted: 05 Jan 2023 at 10:53pm |
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All I know is not one of those women on those sites look like their profile picture. Last one I met claimed she used her younger sister's picture. I asked for her sister's phone number.
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Posted: 05 Jan 2023 at 11:06pm |
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You into sports? Lots of new people playing pickleball. Social fun and good exercise even if you don't find anyone.
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Posted: 05 Jan 2023 at 11:42pm |
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Joe I've been told, the second Christmas after you loose someone is the hardest one you will ever experience. After this Christmas, I believe them. I am sorta attracted to this beautiful 50 year old grandma. 11 years ago I hired her to be the secretary at the car dealership where I worked. But as I sit here and watch TV, my wife's picture is directly above the tv. I feel like I'd be abandoning her, might have to work on this a few more months. Good luck with what ever you decide.
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Posted: 06 Jan 2023 at 1:20am |
desertjoe wrote:
Dave Kamp,,,just where did you learn all that "stuff" ,,,??? |
Well, Brother Joe... you know what I do, and that my assignments take me from the lower border, all the way up into the lower provences of Canada. I get to meet people everywhere... all sorts of culture, all sorts of localisms, and I absorb it all... it could be a Knish in Queens yesterday, a pasty in Munsing day-after-tomorrow, or a Cheeseburger in Paradise next Friday night... and in two weeks, a visit to Aunt Chilada's in Phoenix... I just go. I drove through Winslow Arizona, and there wasn't a single girl standin' on a corner.
Really, EVERY place has it's things, and learning the 'things' is what travelling is all about.
Now, back to finding women... there's at least five dozen 'suggestions'... like... get a dog (they're chick magnets) take up yoga and pottery (Yeah, you've got the physique for both)... or hunt for your next life-partner at the local laundromat.
"Yeah baby- this is my favorite laundromat. I could do my laundry at home, but I like it here better..."
I think that this is a situation where you're least likely to find what you're looking for, if you're LOOKING FOR IT.
Now, the other thing you could do, is put out a silly ad that says "I'm an old widower with a bucket list that includes going to (name someplace interesting, like Yellowstone). I'm too damned old to do it by myself, and too hard-headed to do it with young people, but if you're an older gal with a similar bucket list and nobody to check it off with, send me an Email..."
And see what you get. Keep an open mind and stipulate that if she goes with, she should have the ability to purchase a plane ticket back in the event that she finds you to be an intolerable pain in the ass.
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Posted: 06 Jan 2023 at 4:33am |
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Posted: 06 Jan 2023 at 4:40am |
I know one thing. I go to the nursing home a few nights a week to see my mom and get hit on like crazy and even get frequent marriage proposals. My mom usually sets them straight when that happens. She told one lady not to get near me again.
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Posted: 06 Jan 2023 at 6:15am |
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Joe,these Fellers all have advice of one sort or another. We all make choices. Some choose wisely and some poorly!
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Posted: 06 Jan 2023 at 6:35am |
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Dave, wife is from hill country Wisconsin. You left out the part when you get engaged the church makes you both write out your family's tree to figure out related your are to your wife. No lie, priest told my sil you can marry that guy but no kids! No deep end to the gene pool
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